One of the most surprising things about being a new, stay-at-home parent was how isolating it came be. I was actually anticipating the opposite. I mean, I would NEVER be alone! Turns out there is a difference between chatting with a friend, and chatting to a crying baby as you attempt to change a diaper.
The solution seems simple. Go out! Enjoy the day! Turns out this is also challenging, as a baby’s agenda is usually the opposite of yours. Ready to go? Great! I’m ready to poop. A lot. And there is the stuff. Who knew babies were such divas when it comes to what must accompany you on every outing? These limitations make making plans near impossible.
Enter the mom friend. She understands your limits on scheduling (around naps), locations (must be okay should a breakdown occur) and punctuality (ha!). Even better, most mom friends I have are more experienced than me, so their reassurance and mere presence is very precious.
Getting together with a mom friend doesn’t negate the challenges of getting out, but it does make it so worth it. It might not be after work wine and gossip, but it will greatly help your sanity. The activity or location doesn’t really matter, as long as you can talk and babies can scream if needed. Tomorrow I am getting together with a childhood friend and her two boys to check out the fishies at L.L. Bean. And I couldn’t be more excited.